Our friendship survived university (apart), marriages and my first child. Then she was gone. No harsh words were exchanged. No uncomfortable moments were sliced between us. The friendship just dissolved like ice into lukewarm water. I wanted to know, what I did to create this divide.
My lost friend story stood out like a badge of shame. Women are not supposed to lose friendships. Our whole identity is wrapped up in the fact that we are nurtures and caretakers of relationships. We shake our head at men because they could learn so much from us about friendships.